Coping without your teacher friends

Missing your teacher friends

Our teacher friends are a life line in an often stressful job. They are the people we go to for a moan, they understand what we are feeling, they may have experienced similar feelings or situations and can give us invaluable support and advice. 

Ask any teacher and they will tell you that if they are in a school without a teacher bestie it makes life so much harder. 

In my first year of teaching I was in a two classroom portacabin, isolated from the rest of the school. I was teaching Y5 and they were the first Y5 class the school had ever had, so it was all new. Fortunately for me, the teacher in the adjacent classroom was also new to the school, but she had moved down from middle school (it was the year they went from first and middle schools to the primary system in Bradford – you can age me now if you are interested!).

Hazel was amazing!

Without her support I would not have got through that first year. She was my rock and I was hers. She helped me with all the new things I had to learn and I helped her with the rapidly emerging IT demands. 

How have things changed this year

This year, with schools trying to manage all the new demands of the pandemic everything has changed in schools and every school seems to have a slightly different approach to the guidelines. In some schools every year group has a separate timetable, different break times, lunch times, even start and finish times. Some schools have different areas of the playground for the children to stay in and the children are having lunches in the classroom. In some schools the teachers are only allowed to spend time with other teachers in their bubble. Other schools are allowing up to 6 members of staff in the staffroom at a time in line with the ‘rule of 6″. Some teachers are teaching in person and online simultaneously, some are self isolating…

This is just based on the few conversations I have had with teachers here in the UK. I am sure there are a million permutations globally. 

 The impact of not being with your teacher friends

Some teachers have told me that they don’t get to see their teacher friends at all this year. They don’t need to tell me the impact this is having, it is written all over their faces. They miss each other. They are exhausted from remember everything they usually do and all the extra layers that these new measures have added. Many are on the brink of collapse from mental and physical exhaustion.

Teacher friends

What can you do to care for yourself and your teacher friends this year? 

Check in regularly

You may not be able to have a quick chat in the staffroom over a coffee but you can send messages and see how things are going. If you ask if they are ok and get the standard “Yeah I’m fine, you?” response, ask again. When we ask someone if they are ok for a second time it breaks the pattern our brain is used to and we don’t give an automated response, we give an honest one. Always ask twice.

Find time to meet away from school

You may be subject to the rules during school hours but you can still meet up within local guidelines outside school. Go for a coffee or a drink as often as you can. I know that you may feel that you don’t have time, but the pay off will far outweigh the time spent, honestly. I appreciate that in some areas this may not be possible, but if you can, then do, while you are able! 

Use technology

You may not be able to meet up away from school, or you may be too tired, but you can always make a cuppa or grab a glass of something cold and have a quick chat on Zoom, WhatsApp video etc.  Why not have a staff quiz? The possibilities are endless. 

Make sure you have other people to talk to

One of the most important services our teacher besties provide is a safe space to get things off our chest. Make sure you have someone else who you trust not to go blabbing, who you can talk to honestly about situations and how you are feeling to make sure you aren’t letting stress and upset build up. Obviously if it is someone outside the school setting you will have to be careful about confidentiality but you can talk about most situations without using names and that should suffice.

Most importantly you must make sure you are taking good care of yourself. Whether you can see your teacher friends at the moment or not, you have to make sure that you are focused on your wellbeing, not just all the new rules and regulations.

Here are some blogs which will help you to care for your mental health:

Teachers: Put yourself first

Invisible Stress

Wellbeing must be a top priority

Autumn Wellbeing


This is also a great article about staff wellbeing: Supporting Staff Wellbeing

Wellbeing must be our top priority

Wellbeing is always a priority for me, and I know for many of you too, but is our desire to catch them up with missed academic work causing us to forget the most important thing this year – mental health. Most children are now back to school now, whether it is in the classroom or working remotely from home. Some have missed six months of schooling and teachers and parents are understandably concerned about the long term impact this will have on their children.

It has been a year of great learning for everyone. Teachers have had to learn to teahc in ways they never imagined they would have to; most had never heard of Google Classrooms or Zoom at the start of 2020. They have had to create contingency plans sould we go back into lockdown again before the end of the year. Most importantly they have had to learn to teach their students without being able to see their reactions. Anyone who has every spent time in a classroom knows how important it is to be able to see the look on a child’s face as you explain an activity. As professionals we constantly scan the room to assess who is going to need a little extra help with today’s lesson. This is so much harder when they are all dotted about on a tiny screen. 

Wellbeing front and centre

Teachers really are amazing

It has really made the many layers of teaching more clear too. Most people don’t realise that teachers don’t just educate the children in their care, they notice whether they are wearing the same clothes every day, whether they look hungry and don’t have a lunch, if they look tired or worried and so much more. Teachers are truly incredible but their job has become harder in the current situation. As I type, many teachers are attempting to teach to a classroom full of children whilst also guiding pupils who are isolating at home to ensure they don’t fall behind.

This year has undoubtedly been the most challenging year most teachers have ever known. Depsite that they continue to give it everything they have.

There is so much pressure to get children caught up on the work they have missed, because despite the fact that teachers have been working hard sending lessons home, unfortunately not all children could access those lessons. Everyone is concerned about the impact this has had, particularly on our most vulnerable children. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am as concerned about this issue as anyone, what I do know though is that if we focus purely on academics our children are not going to make the desired progress.


 Change can adversely affect wellbeing

This has been a very difficult year for most children. They have had health worries, they may be aware of financial challenges, they have missed their friends and family… and now just when they thought that life could return to normal they have returned to the security of school to find that everything is different there now too!

The classrooms look different, they have to use hand sanitiser, they may have to eat their lunch in the classroom, they can’t play with friends from other classes…

All this change can add up to a whole world of anxiety for some children. 

We know that when children feel stressed or anxious they can’t learn. Their rational brain shuts down and they cannot retain or recall information and they certainly can’t achieve their full potential.

If we want our children to be able to catch up on the content they have missed this year the first thing we must do is to focus on their emotional wellbeing. Help them feel calm and safe at school again and then watch them flourish.

What can we do to help our children’s wellbeing at school? 

Be Consistent

Obviously the most important thing is to be as consistent as possible. Familiarity feels secure. Yes things have changed, but they will quickly settle into a new routine and the new rules. 


I know I go on about the importance of breathing properly and using your breath to calm your body, but that’s because it is by far the most effective way to ease stress and anxiety. It is so simple. If you aren’t familiar with the many breathing techniques you can use to help your class breathe for calm pop over to my free resources and grab everything you can!

Take time to talk

Talk to your class about their experiences, let them know that it’s ok if they don’t want to talk publicly about how they feel but give them an opportunity to talk to you alone if you can. There are some worksheets to help you with this in my A Calm Return Pack and also included in the School Subscription Package.

 Focus on the here and now

Don’t worry about where they should be, what they ought to have done and where they need to be by the end of the term/year. Focus on what they are doing now and how well they are coping with that. It can feel insurmountable when we are asked to look at everything we need to have achieved by a certain point. Equally looking back at what we should have done can be excruciating for the children who were unable to complete that work (not always through any fault of their own it is important to remember). Concentrate on what they are doing today, this week and make sure they are happy doing that and that it is achievable and grow their confidence slowly.


Whatever stage your class are at. Wherever they are learning. Whatever their personal situation, all that matters is that they feel safe and secure while they are learning. Anything is possible for any child if we can create that sense of wellbeing and allow them to learn with every fibre of their being rather than being in fight or flight mode and trying to survive. 

Teachers have the power to transform the lives of so many children but the key to a successful life isn’t grades and certificates, it is confidence, self awareness and an ability to regulate your emotions. The rest can all come afterwards, if indeed it is needed. So please, continue to teach all the important things, of course our children need to read and write but layer these on top of a foundation of resilience, calm and a can do attitude and you will see your students fly!


Invisible Stress

Stress is an issue for most of us these days. 

This has escalated, particularly for teachers and school staff during the pandemic. It has been an incredibly stressful time in schools. This article though is about a problem which is much wider and more universal than additional stress caused by the global pandemic. 

“Invisible stress” is the kind of stress that creeps up on you. The sort that you don’t even realise is there. One day you are happily plodding along, everything seems normal and the next you have reached your breaking point and you can’t stop crying or you’re angry all the time or you realise you haven’t slept in months or you get ill.

Let me tell you a little story about invisible stress… 

Once upon a time there was a newly qualified teacher. She had dreamed of being a teacher her whole life. All the young teacher wanted to do was help the children in her inner city school to flourish. 

Invisible Stress

Every day she would bounce into the classroom, give those children her all, and drive home exhausted. It was a really challenging school, there were all sorts of challenges for the young teacher, including an really unsupportive Head.  Despite all that she smiled, did everything that was asked of her and the whole world thought she was coping brilliantly with the challenges of the job.

Then BAM! One morning the enthusiastic, young teacher woke up and she burst into tears.  Whatever she did, she couldn’t stop crying. A few hours later she was sitting back at home with an anti-depressant in her hand and a sick note from the doctor, wondering if she was going to have to be medicated for the rest of her career. The worst thing was, she hadn’t seen it coming. No clues, no early warning system, nothing! Once she recovered, and came off the antidepressants, she promised herself that she would never let anything or anyone make her feel like that every again!

exam stress

Fast forward 20 years and that same woman found herself in the middle of a global pandemic. Both her children were in key years at school; her eldest sitting GCSEs and her youngest SATs and finishing primary school. Of course these exams couldn’t take place because of the pandemic and she believed that life was so much calmer and more stress-free because of that. 

Ok enough third person. By now you must have realised that the young stressed out teacher was me, and so is the relieved Mum. However, I was wrong!

I have spent the last few months enjoying my time with my family. Thrilled that my daughter, in particular, had had so much stress removed from her due to the exams being cancelled. (My daughter wrote an amazing article with me last year about her struggles with anxiety which you can read here if you haven’t already).

Then a couple of weeks ago I started getting headaches, I never get headaches. So I upped my relaxation and meditation time, but they persisted. I realised I wasn’t sleeping well. Over the following few days the tightening in my shoulders started and that turned into a pain up my neck. Still I walked round finding excuses and possible reasons for all these classic symptoms of stress.


Now I need to give you some background to this situation. I am very good in a crisis. I always jump into action and calm everyone else down then deal with myself later. Over the last few weeks, months, years even, the anxiety levels over exams have been slowly bubbling and rising. So, I have been calming everyone down, giving them tools to cope and, I thought, managing my own levels too. But the last couple of weeks there has been so much uncertainty about these results, the government literally changed how they were being calculated days before the results were announced. This has led to unnecessary anxiety and stress for everyone involved, me included it turns out. Now, those of you who know me know that I am passionate about mental health, but I am even more dedicated to and passionate about my family. This palarva was causing my daughter serious anxiety and my body was reacting to that and getting ready to fight for her (that’s what our stress reaction is, at a biological level). 

I didn’t realise how bad it was until it all suddenly lifted yesterday when the results came in and I got to see my daughter’s reaction as she opened her email from school with her results in.

Now I need to make it clear, that this has not been a “wake up in tears, book a doctor’s appointment” level stress. But it has been a timely reminder that despite all my tools and techniques I am still susceptible to stress at times. It reminded me that in all likelihood I would have been in a much worse state had I not used my daily practices and stepped up my self care.

I was also reminded that no-one is immune to invisible stress. 


Laura exam results

What can you do about invisible stress?

The problem with invisible stress is that you can’t see it until it is too late. You have headaches, migraines even, you over eat or under eat, you’re not sleeping, your shoulders are tight and you are really over emotional… these are all early warning signs.

I know so many teachers who are struggling with invisible stress but they have no idea and since I have just demonstrated that even I can be caught out, the only thing to do is to live every day as though you are trying to ease your stress. 


Take lots of deep breaths, regularly. Breathe deeply into your stomach and as slowly as you can comfortably and see the difference it makes. Read more about breathing.


I have said it a million times but meditation doesn’t have to be sitting in the lotus position and chanting. It can be as simple as walking to the shops without looking at your phone and being really aware of every step and how it feels in your body. Read more about Meditation.


I know I go on about this too but sleeping is SO important. It is when we are asleep that our stress levels are processed and lower. Without enough sleep you are starting each day with higher stress levels than you should and you get nearer to tipping point every day. Monitoring your sleep is a great way to detect invisible stress too. Read more about Sleep.

Eat well

When you’re not eating well your body can’t function as efficiently as it should, you lack energy and don’t feel as positive. Read more about mindful eating and the benefits.

Take care of yourself

Run a bath, hug your children, go for a walk or a run, listen to your favourite music and dance around your kitchen, read a good book, eat food you enjoy, arrange to meet friends for a drink… Whatever it is that makes you really happy, do it! As often as you physically can!


In summary: take care of yourself all the time, whether you feel stressed or not! 

Lifting Lockdown: Helping our children adjust

Lifting lockdown has been a subject on people’s minds here in the UK for the last 7 weeks. We all know that eveything has to end. As much as most of us were concerned about the impact on our lives of going into lockdown, I think for the most part we have all adjusted, to some degree, to this new reality we are living in. 

Parents are juggling working from home and helping their children with school work. We all know that there is no such thing as “popping” to the shops now, because we may be standing in a socially distanced queue for anything up to an hour and a half. We dutifully take our hours exercise on our bikes or walking in the vicinity of our homes. 

We miss our families and friends, but to a degree at least, lockdown is our new normal.

At some point though, this will have to change. It already is. This week, more people have been advised that they can return to work and we were given a timeframe for certain age ranges returning to school.

Lifting Lockdown

With the announcement this week form the government here in the UK that our youngest children will be among the first returning to school, many are feeling understandably anxious about how this will work in a school environment.

Children aged 4 and 5 years have no concept of personal space, let alone social distancing so many Heads and leadership teams are scratching their heads at the moment and many parents are concerned for the ramifications this may have.

Teddy in a Mask

 No PPE is going to be supplied to schools. Honestly, can you imagine it being of any benefit with such young children anyway? There will just be lots of hand washing, cleaning of surfaces and equipment and social distancing, as far as possible. It is all very scary and different for everyone involved. 

How can we help our children adjust to this “post-lockdown” reality? 

Well, I think it is important to start talking to them now. 

Talk to them about how things will have to be different

Explain that they will not be able to hug their friends or hold hands.

If you haven’t already make sure you really hammer home that they must cough and sneeze into their elbow. They must wash their hands regularly and throw tissues away straight after use (somewhere safe like a dustbin, not tucked behind the nearest item of furniture!).  

As far as you can prepare them for what school will be like when they return. The fact they may be in a different classroom, have a different teacher and not all their class will be together. Explain that lunch times and play times will be different. 

It’s hard because none of us really know how this is going to work yet. But the more we can prepare them for the fact that going back to school doesn’t mean, walking back in and picking up where they left off, the better. 

Build up their immune system

Having a strong immune system is going to be vital over the coming months. Just by being isolated from the rest of the world for a few weeks our body will have relaxed it’s natural systems a little. Make sure you are eating healthily as a family. Lots of green veg and broccoli in particular is great for lung strength. Get some vitamin c and zinc or if you are able to take it echinacea. These are all great for boosting your immune system. You can get vitamin c and zinc in soluble tablets that taste like orange pop, really easy to get most children to drink. 

Stay calm

I know it’s hard. Children pick up on you being anxious about things and they assume (rightly sometimes) that there is reason for them to be scared. When we are scared our immunity is reduced so at the moment, more than ever it is important to stay calm. Do breathing exercises together, meditate if that is something you are able to do, make sure you are getting exercise every day (that helps your body to process any stress and anxiety you may be experiencing). Have a look at some of my free resources for ideas.


Play is how children, especially young children, make sense of the world. Play at going back to school. Pretend that you can’t get too close to each other, make it a game. Make hand washing a game. Use teddy bears and dolls to help them get used to the idea of staying a distance away from each other. Enjoy this time together. It may feel stressful at times, but having all this extra time with our children is really special. (It has been suggested that there should be more focus on play in schools when this is over too. To read more check out this article from The Guardian.)


 Getting enough sleep will ensure that you are able to think clearly and rationally and help you stay calm. It is also important to get enough sleep as it helps your body process stress related hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline.


During lockdown there aren’t many people we are allowed to hug, but we can hug our children and we must do it often! Hugs release feel good chemicals that help us feel safe, secure and content and that is more important now than ever.

Lockdown Limits

As we prepare to begin a slow and complex return to normality it is normal to have very mixed feelings about all this. It is normal to be scared for ourselves and for our children. Many people are confused and emotional at the moment, for many reasons. As parents we want our children to return to their “normal” lives, to play with their friends and continue their education. It isn’t easy for anyone. As adults we are concerned about the physical and mental health of our loved ones, we might be worried about finances if we are unable to work. We want our children to stay up to date with their learning, but equally we want them to be happy and healthy when all this is over.

One thing is for certain, life will have to return to normal at some point. When that will be, none of us really know. We are all very much in the hands of the government, the scientists and other experts right now. I urge you though, listen to your instincts. As parents we have strong intuition when it comes to the wellbeing and safety of our children. If you feel that your child is perhaps more at risk, or others in your household are, if you feel that they will be upset by the necessary changes that will inevitably have to happen in school before they return, talk to school. Explain how you are feeling, explain your situation but ultimately do what you believe is right for your child.


Lockdown or no lockdown I can help!

If you are concerned about how this pandemic has affected the mental wellbeing of your children, or the children in your school, please do get in touch. As soon as I am able to safely I will be back visiting schools, running workshops and teaching both teachers and their precious students how to reduce the anxiety they have been feeling and giving them tools to stabilise their mental and physical health. If you would like to discuss this with me by all means get in touch.



Supporting your child during isolation

Isolation has come to mean something very different to most of us over recent days and weeks. Before this outbreak most of us associated isolation with the elderly or those who couldn’t easily get out and about. Now almost all of us as self-isolating, in the hope that it will slow the impact of COVID19. 

Here is the UK we are at the end of our first real week of isolation. Our schools have been closed, apart from for the children of key workers, since Monday. Teachers are doing an incredible job; sending work home, putting themselves and their families at risk going in to teach those children who have to remain in school, and sharing incredibly supportive messages to help their students through this difficult time. I take my hat off to all of you. So many people pulling together to keep the essential services of our society going.

Understandably many children are finding the changes difficult. They are suddenly being taught by their parents at home, they can’t see thier friends and everything feels a little bit strange.

Isolation tips


I wanted to just pop online, to give you some tips to help us all stay sane during this time.   


Life is very different for many people at the moment, but here is my advice. 


Try to keep a rough routine  

Routines give security, especially to younger children. Older children may want to embrace the flexibility that this time gives them, but with Primary aged children I recommend having some structure to the day. Many parents are even reading a register at the start of the day, having playtimes, set lunchtime etc. This makes the day feel more familiar, even if you are having lessons at the kitchen table. 


Don’t sweat the small stuff

We are all adjusting to this temporary reality. If your child doesn’t want to do any work today. That’s fine. Give them a cuddle and watch a film. There is plenty of time to catch up on school work, what is important right now is your child’s physical and mental wellbeing.  


Get plenty of exercise 

Whether it is doing Joe Wick’s Youtube workouts on a morning or having a good dance in the kitchen make sure you are getting plenty of exercise. Exercise reduces your stress levels as well as keeping you physically fit. 


Get dressed 

I know that we all look forward to those days when we can stay in our pjs and just relax, but we are potentially looking at 12 weeks of pj days. The novelty wears off and it can really adversely impact our wellbeing. I appreciate that we can’t necessarily get our hair cut at the moment, but we can get dressed and make a bit of an effort. It helps us to be more productive and gets us in the right mindset, especially on “school days”.

Screen time

I am not a huge fan of screen time, but there is a place for it and this might just be one of them. We all escape into our screens when we are stressed if we aren’t careful. Relaxing your screen time rules a little over the coming weeks won’t do any harm. I’m not saying you should let them have screens 24/7 but a little extra time won’t hurt. 

Look after your own mental health 

Chances are you are focused on your children at the moment, and that is great, but it is so important that you care for your own wellbeing at the moment too. You may be trying to juggle work, home schooling, worrying about; loved ones, what the future holds, finances… Make sure you take time for yourself. Take a few deep breaths if it is all getting too much and be kind to yourself. Everyone is feeling tired, stressed and emotional at times at the moment. Allow yourself to really feel these emotions and don’t give yourself a hard time if you do snap at the children, it happens. Take a deep breath and give yourself a minute then get back to it. 

I hope that helps.

The most important thing you can do right now is to love your children and make sure they know that you love them. Take time to play games, watch films, go for walks, spend time in the garden, teach them new skills. This is the perfect time to do all the things you don’t usually have time to do. Embrace the freedom that these restrictions have given many of us in terms of our time. 

Isolation resources:

I also wanted to include a list of all the amazing online resources I have come across to help you occupy your children during this time, so here goes. By all means contact me if you find any that you think I should include:

Free audio books:

David Walliams story time:

Sir Linkalot (Spellings help): 

Joe Wicks PE lessons: 

Live Q&A sessions with Steve Backshall: 

Homework club with Konnie Huq: 

Carol Vorderman’s Maths Factor: 

Let’s Go Live Science classes: 

Oti Mabuse Dance classes: 

Edinburgh Zoo webcams:

Wind in the Willows the Musical:

National Theatre:

Paris Opera and ballet:

Royal Institute science lectures:

Science with Professor Brian Cox, Robin Ince & Guests:


Don’t forget all the amazing boxed sets on the iplayer.

How to help an anxious child in your class

In my last blog I discussed signs and symptoms of an anxious child, which may help you to spot children in your class who were struggling. 

Being able to identify the issue is only a small part of helping the child while they are at school though. In this blog I intend to show you how easy it is to make school a calm and supportive environment. This is important for all children, but especially those struggling with anxiety.

The most important thing you can do for an anxious child

The single most important thing you can do to help an anxious child is to be as consistent as you can. I appreciate that we all have bad days and teachers are only human (although that is a revelation to most of our students, isn’t it?). The more calm and consistent you can be, the calmer your students will feel. They need to know what to expect from you, and more importantly, what you expect from them.

Routine is also a huge help when tackling anxiety. When we know what is going to happen, how and where there is a deep, instinctive security associated with that.  

In schools there will always be changes to routine because there is a celebration, a visitor or something unexpected has occured. As much as possible though, keep to a routine, especially on a morning and around certain key events. That way the children know that when x happens you expect y. It allows them to feel in control and there is no doubt for them that if they follow that structure you will be happy and they will achieve the desired result.

Celebrate failures. This is a challenge for many of us. We all want to succeed. To be the best we can be. But if we only ever do things we know we will succeed at we limit our potential. There will always be times when we have to stretch our comfort zone and try something new. By showing the children that you don’t get everything right all the time, that you make mistakes and that’s ok. Better than ok, it’s great. It means you were brave, you tried something new and challenging and that is how we learn and grow. 

Sara Blakely, CEO and founder of SPANX, says her father used to ask her and her brother every week at the dinner table; “what did you fail at today?” and if they had something to share he would celebrate it.

If you haven’t watched it before this is a great video about the importance of failing. It is only 4 mins but is a real eye opener if you have always been worried about failing – as so many of us are. 

Unnecessary pressure

Unnecessary pressure can be a real issue in schools. I appreciate that we are all trying to get the best out of the children in our class. We want them to succeed, to be the best they can be. Putting pressure on an anxious child though is going to have the opposite effect. It may only be a throw away comment but it can impact a child for years. I heard recently about a child who had had a prolongued period off school with anxiety. They struggled to return but did, and not just that, did brilliantly in their mocks. They then fell ill and emailed their teachers to get the work they had missed. 90% of their teachers were great and either gave a small amout to catch up, or told them not to worry. One teacher though responded by saying “It’s good to see you are finally taking your studies seriously!”. This child was a high achiever and it was the pressure to succeed and to be the very best that was causing their anxiety. This one comment put them back several steps.

Yes, test results are important, exam results matter, but they are not the end of the world, and certainly not worth sacrificing the mental health of any of your students. Exams can always be retaken.

Be mindful of how much pressure you are placing on your class. Comments such as “last year’s class did brilliantly, but I know that you are going to do even better” may be motivating for some children, but paralysing For an anxious child.

If a child is struggling, the quickest way to calm them down is to ask them to do some breathing exercises (there are lots on my social media accounts and in my free downloads).

Time out 

Allow them to step away from the task, maybe go sit and read quietly for a few minutes. Give them a mental health break. Why not have a soft toy who is a special calming friend who they can talk to and cuddle when they are feeling anxious (You could add a few drops of lavender essential oil every week so that when they have a cuddle it helps calm them down even more?).

Many children will feel calmer if they move around. Why not have dance breaks during stressful times, such as the build up to tests? Giving the children 2-3 minutes to dance, and inevitably laugh too, will calm their physical body and provide a fun distraction. 

Children are unique

Most importantly remember that they are individuals. They may not respond the same way another child you have taught did, and that’s ok. Talk to them. They may not understand how they are feeling, depending on their age, but they might know exactly what will make them feel better.  Make sure you use positive language and nurture their self confidence and self esteem as much as possible. The more confident a child, the more able they feel to cope with stress. 

No two people are the same. We all react differently, we all respond to events differently. Some children love tests because they like a challenge. Others become a nervous wreck at the mention of the word. Some children will enjoy doing some exercise to calm down, but others will just want to sit quietly.  

Watch how they respond. If a child is really struggling, tailor the way you respond to suit them rather than the whole class. An estimated 1 in 8 children under 19 having a diagnosable mental health condition in the UK. This is not something we can ignore. You may have 4 or more children in your class who are really struggling with anxiety, depression or other mental health issues. Remember those are just the children who are severe enough to get a diagnosis. Many more will feel anxious before an exam or during a stressful period either at home or school. 

Mental health issues are no longer things which are rare and often dealt with outside school. All staff need to have a good understanding of the impact this can have on children in school. There must be consistency across the whole school environment.


For more help and advice on this subject:

Young Minds





How to spot anxiety in students

Anxiety in students is probably the biggest issue in our classrooms at the moment. 

With 1 in 3 of our teenagers diagnosed with anxiety disorders and 7% of 3-17 year olds struggling with anxiety this is not something we can ignore.

 That means that if you teach primary aged children (3-11yrs) statistically our of a class of 30 you will have at least 2 children in your class with anxiety. If you teach secondary (11-18yrs) that increases to 10 in every class of 30!

Just take a moment to let that sink in.

Do you know which of the children in your class might be struggling?

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that as a teacher you are already juggling so many observations and responsibilities that the last thing you need is to be adding mental health officer or counsellor to your job description. 

Here’s the problem though.

We can’t learn when we are feeling anxious.

 If we don’t identify the students who are feeling anxious we may be sabotaging those all important results as well as letting down our vulnerable young people. 

Why is anxiety on the rise?

There are many reasons, I’m going to list the biggest in my opinion:  

  • Greater access to information
  • Inability to escape from peers due to social media and mobiles
  • Too much screen time
  • Not enough time outside
  • Academic pressures
  • Diet
  • Sleep deprivation 

I’m not going to go into these in detail but rest assured all these factors increase anxiety levels dramatically in most people and a combination of all of them is truly toxic.

There is precious little, as teachers, that we can do about these causes of anxiety. What we need to do is to spot the signs, and of course give our students strategies to reduce their stress levels and anxiety.

What are the signs of anxiety? 

  • Feeling sick and light headed
  • Sweating
  • Needing the toilet more frequently than usual
  • Crying
  • Sore or upset stomach 
  • Blushing
  • Headaches and tense muscles
  • Teeth grinding
  • Loss of appetite or over eating
  • Trembling
  • Trouble sleeping

I know what you’re thinking. Most of these symptoms are either impossible or difficult to spot as a teacher. When you then factor in the fact that many children become incredibly skilled at hiding their symptoms, because having people knowing that they are struggling may add to their anxiety, it becomes almost impossible.

Many children develop elaborate coping mechanisms, for example “acting”. A child may create an elaborate character who is a competent student who is confident and calm and act that way at school so as not to draw attention to themselves. 

Often a child will make themselves “invisible” so that they aren’t called on to speak or demonstrate anything in class. 

Ultimately our mind is very accomplished at protecting us from anything that is threatening or scary. It keeps us safe. 

We could be crying inside with every muscle in our body so tight it feels like it might snap but we can often still paint on a smile and convince the world that we are fine. 

How can we spot those students who may be struggling with anxiety? 

Keep an eye out for students who are resistant to being seen. Those who really don’t want to read aloud, shy away from any tasks that involve being seen or scrutinised. 

Be aware of the perfectionists. Those children who always want to re-start work because something didn’t quite go as planned. Who are never happy with their finished work (if they ever finish).

Look out for the children who appear to be daydreaming a lot. They may be daydreaming (which can be an escape mechanism) but they may also be feeling lightheaded with the pressure of all the learning going on.

Spot the very physically tense children if you can. The ones who clench their jaw or who have very tight, high shoulders.

Notice patterns in behaviour: those who ask to go to the toilet more often than average, the ones who complain of a headache or stomach ache a lot. 

The children who are always tired, despite seemingly having sensible bedtime routines.

None of these are exclusively symptoms of anxiety, but they may be, and if those same children are then underperforming in tests or bursting into tears unexpectedly or over reacting to seemingly small situations, you may do well to check on them.

Most young people won’t tell you that they are feeling anxious or scared. They will communicate their need for help in other ways; they may act out, ask you to play with them, tell you their tummy/head hurts, they are tired. They may constantly ask for help understanding things. This can be a combination of struggling to focus due to the anxiety, tiredness and wanting to let you know that they are struggling.

I appreciate that this is a lot to look out for and a lot to take in. So I am going to break this blog into two parts, the next part will be giving you more advice and giving practical ways to help your students who may be struggling with anxiety.

Other blogs you may find interesting:

Anxiety in Teenagers 

Academic Anxiety


You can COUNT on Mindfulness

When we are asked to introduce new things into the classroom there is often an assumption that it is going to mean lots of preparation, lots of work and generally big stress! 

This really doesn’t have to be the case with wellbeing and in particular mindfulness. There are so many very simple techniques and minor adjustments you can make that will have a huge impact on your wellbeing and that of your students. 

One of the simplest techniques you can use is counting. This is particularly brilliant if you teach young children who are newly confident when counting because it reinforces their maths learning too. You can also differentiate the activity so that you count in 2s, 5s, 10s etc to make it more complicated for older children.  

How do we count for mindfulness?

It’s really very simple.

Simply explain to the children that you are going to start counting (it can be in 1s, 2s, 5s, 10s, forwards, backwards, etc whatever is relevant to your class) but tell them you are going to continue to count quietly in your heads after the first 3 numbers. They can close their eyes, use their fingers, whatever they need. You give them a target number to get to and once they reach that number ask them to silently raise their hand. Tell them you want to see if you can all get to the number at the same time. 

You can practise this many time with different target numbers, using times tables etc.

You can even use the alphabet, songs or nursery rhymes. The important thing is that they are focused solely on the one task in hand. They can’t be thinking about other things, messing with their friend or their shoe, because if they do they won’t be able to reach the target at the right time.  

I told you it was simple didn’t I?


If you want to discover many other simple wellbeing strategies why not check out my FREE Resources page.

Meditation – It’s not what you think!

Meditation is a word that wasn’t used much when I was growing up but over the last few years it has grown in popularity to an extraordinary degree. 

For years if anyone mentioned meditation we pictured someone sitting in the lotus position with their hands in a mudra, while chanting “Ommmmm”. This stereotype is I’m sure what many people imagine when someone suggests that they meditate.  

Fortunately for me you don’t have to conform to this image, although you can if you wish to of course. My legs are long and my feet are big and my joints are damaged by my acromegaly so twisting myself into the lotus position is impossible, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t meditate every single day. I meditate while I’m waiting to collect my son from school, while I do the housework and as I go to sleep most nights.

So what is meditation?

What does meditation mean?

Well, it isn’t quite as limited as many believe. Here is the definition according to the online Oxford dictionary:
  1. focus one’s mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting, for religious or spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation.
    “I set aside time every day to write and meditate”
    • think deeply about (something).
      “he went off to meditate on the new idea”
    • plan mentally; consider.
      “they had suffered severely, and they began to meditate retreat”
      (Oxford Online Dictionary)

Personally I use two types of meditation:

  • focusing my mind on an issue or subject and either studying or letting my mind find a solution
  • trying to empty my mind as much as possible and just relax

I find both incredibly useful one for finding answers and both for calming my mind. I’m sure others would say that either there is only one form of meditation or there are countless, and both are probably right. Whichever method I am using the result is my brain is calm and my body feels restored. 

I don’t tend to chant or make any noise at all while I am meditating. However, I do use singing as meditation, and always have since I was very young. It is one of my favourite ways of calming my body and clearing my mind. Does that count as a different method? For me it is focusing on one thing and letting my mind find a solution. It is very different to sitting in silence with a problem I need resolving though so maybe it is?   

I also use work and manual tasks such as gardening, baking, decorating, cleaning the car as meditation. Whether it is creating something like a worksheet, digging up weeds, stirring a batter or kneading a dough, painting a wall or polishing the car it is possible to focus so completely on the task in hand that you lose yourself in the moment… meditation.   

I focus on the task in hand and I forget everything else for a few minutes, or even hours. This is meditation.   

Often when I am writing I find the solutions to problems I have been having the same way I would when I sit in silent meditation, so writing works for me as meditation too.  

Reading a book can be meditative. You focus whole heartedly on the task in hand and escape into another world. It is incredibly calming and relaxing too. 

Painting or creating of any form can be meditation. Whether you create using clay or wool or wood you can turn it into a meditative practice. 

Walking is a very popular form of meditation. Many people walk labyrinths or just walk mindfully in nature as a form a meditation.  

Dance and yoga can be meditative, going for a run can be meditative.  

Meditation is so often about how you do something rather than what you are doing.  

So the next time someone recommends that you try meditation to help you with your stress, anxiety or depression, don’t dismiss it because you can’t sit still and chant.   

Whatever works for you, the important thing is to take time to really concentrate on the task in hand. Switch off from your planning, step away from your worries, turn off technology and just be present doing whatever you are doing. 

The reason, I believe, that meditation has become so popular over the last few years is because our lives have become so busy. we see it as a badge of honour if we are juggling more than someone else. The busier we are the more important we must be. We never stop and just pay attention to what is happening here and now.  As a result we are exhausting our brains and we never give our minds time to rest and recharge so our mental health struggles. 

Taking just 5 minutes a day to meditate in some form is life changing. Obviously the longer you can manage the better.  

“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day – unless you’re too busy; then you should sit for an hour.” – Zen Proverb 

Other blogs that may interest you: 

Saana Meditation Cushions

“Colouring in” as meditation





Saana Meditation Cushions

I love to meditate. 

I have meditated all my life. Admittedly I didn’t always know that that was what I was doing. With hindsight it has always been a huge part of my mental self care. 

Imagine my joy when an amazing new company, Saana Cushions, contacted me and asked if I would like to try their new meditation cushions.  

I am fortunate that I often get products sent for me to review, but I am very selective about what I actually share with you. 

Saana Cushions tick every box for me!

First things first, these cushions are comfy to use. Let’s be honest that is the most important thing, if you aren’t comfortable you are not going to be able to really settle to meditate.


The cushions come in 3 different sizes so you can order according to your needs.

I love that Saana Cushions are ethically made with recycled and natural materials. Sarah sources all her fabrics in charity shops and uses things like upcycled theatre curtains to create her beautiful cushions. They are filled with organic buckwheat hulls which are sourced in the UK. 

More importantly for you though, they are easily washed. Let’s be honest if you are going to have cushions in your classroom they need to be easy to clean. The buckwheat hulls are contained in an inner bag so that the cover can be washed easily.  

Quality product and friendly service

Having used my cushion for a couple of weeks now I cannot recommend them enough. Not only are they beautiful but they are so tactile and because they come in a cotton storage bag they are easy to stow away when you aren’t using them. 

Whether you are wanting to introduce a regular meditation practice to your class or you meditate occasionally but you are looking for flexible seating options or new seating for your reading corner, these cushions are perfect. 

I am a big believer in supporting start ups and helping small businesses as much as I can. There are thousands of people at the moment trying to support themselves and their families by creating a business built around their passion and this is a wonderful example of just that. Sarah is a talented seamstress and a genuine and compassionate person. She is just one person creating a really bespoke, beautiful product and for an incredible price too.

If you want to know more about Saana Cushions or order some for your school or family please check out their website and let Sarah know that you discovered her beautiful products via my website. It’s always good to know where recommendations have come from.

I should add that I am not getting any commission for referrals, I was sent a cushion to try but don’t benefit from sharing this review nor will I get any financial reward for promoting this wonderful new business. I never promise anyone that I will write a review of their product when they send it to me. If I don’t like something, or I feel it doesn’t fit with my beliefs I won’t write a negative review, I will simply not review the item at all. So you know that when I do review something it is because I genuinely love it.


Relevant blogs:

“Colouring in” as Meditation

Why is being present so important anyway?


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